It makes me sad to be writing a blog post like this one. When I started blogging over 5 years ago, it was into a loving community of creatives. It has changed so much over the years in some ways for the better and others not for good. Recently I have noticed so much hate online, on Twitter and various other platforms. Mainly between women, and other bloggers which is really sad to see. For this reason I want to share a post talking about this and explaining why we MUST support each other.
WHAT IS HAPPENING?
What shocks me is how people find it OKAY to share nasty and rude comments online about others. I’m not about naming names or hinting at certain things I have seen but I wanted to talk about this. There’s been so many ‘name dropping’ posts recently about people buying followers, not following certain ‘blogging rules’ and so many other things.
What I don’t understand is why name dropping is a thing, and why anyone would want to draw that kind of nasty attention to someone? Whether you believe in what that person is doing or not, why does it make it right to start online bullying?
Also, there isn’t a rule book to blogging and that has always been the beauty of this online platform. There are so many ways to express ourselves through creativity, words, visuals and more, so surely we shouldn’t be conforming to a rule book? That is one of the reasons I started blogging because I could relate to like minded people yet felt free in my own outlet to express myself openly, without judgment or hate.
STOP BEING A HATER
With the amount of negativity and hatred online it is no wonder so many of us feel self conscious, paranoid and anxious. We all need to STOP putting people on pedestals and realise that we are the same. It REALLY doesn’t matter how many followers someone has, whether they brought them, went viral or have just started on their blogging journey, we all started, we all want credibility and we are all in this together.
If you have really strong feelings about something then 100% get that off your chest, but in ways it doesn’t cause hate online. Message that person directly, or vent that frustration into something positive like a blog post, art or something you are passionate about.
AIN’T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT
Life is far too short for donating time to negative, hurtful and un-supportive things, why would you even want to do that? I personally don’t have time for it and usually am clear of seeing online drama. The fact that I have been seeing it spewing around everywhere the past few months has led to this blog post, and therefore MY time talking about it.
I just don’t understand why anyone would give up there time to be a troll. Surely theres so many wonderful things to do in this world other than write a nasty YouTube comments or participate in a Twitter slaughter?
SUPPORT THE LADIES
That leads me to the fact we NEED to Support one another. Not saying we have to go around liking, retweeting and sharing every single post we see. Support can be on so many levels in this online community.
I love it when someone tweets me to asks how my day was, or notices when I haven’t posted in a few days. It’s those little things that really don’t go a miss and could really brighten someones day. Even a thumbs up on a YouTube video, instead of those dreadful thumbs down we all hate to get (Thank you YouTube for creating such a negative option of expression).
Supporting others content when you know they worked hard on it. Share it or make a song and dance about how awesome they are. I LOVE seeing my friends do well, it motivates me to do the same. Sadly so many people in life let jealousy overcome there judgment and start to resent people around them.
Guys, if I have any advice from someone who has been in that position, even lost friends due to jealousy is to JUST LET GO!! Shake off that constant draining feeling and just support people. I can honestly say it’s the best feeling being a radiator and not a drain to others.
Anyway, I hope this blog post meant something to you, and that you can see why I just needed to word vomit about this. It’s 2017, we should be using social media for better, more supporting things and not for hate.
I will leave you with this…